I was walking the long hard road called Approval Addiction.
We all live with some form of drama and chaos in our lives. Think of a time when your friend may have been going through a very traumatic and heart wrenching break-up and how you were there to help them get through it all. And yes, there was probably a lot of drama involved with the whole process. Chances are, your friend got over it, healed and moved on.
“People see themselves as the centre of the universe and judge everything as it relates to them.” -Peace Pilgrim
When we believe that we are the centre of the universe we come directly from ego and go through life wearing blinders. We don’t see the whole picture and we don’t view others realistically or with compassion.
In my previous blog article I discussed the role that dream stealers can play when it comes to our buying into the erroneous belief that we won’t ever achieve our dreams and fulfill our passion in life. Now that we’ve explored this we need to take the next step.
―Steve Maraboli, “Life, the Truth, and Being Free”
I’d like you to think back to the first time, that you can remember, when someone put down your dreams or future plans.
How old where you? Where were you when this happened? And who was it who put down your dreams or future plans? Were they an authority figure such as a parent or parent-figure, older relative, or teacher?
During the past year we’ve seen a lot of changes and events in this world….some very positive, and some were downright evil. It’s during the first days of the New Year that we begin to think about and then make New Year’s resolutions. How many of them fall by the way side and why? Is it because we make them to please someone else and then, make them half-heartedly or is it because we’d like to make those changes but just aren’t ready to…yet?
Silenced Woman has lost her voice. It has been stolen from her. It
keeps her from speaking up and telling her truth.
Many times, this occurs during childhood. She may have been told
that “nice girls don’t say things like that!” or, she may have been
punished for asking the wrong question, or for speaking up for herself.
Often times it will continue into adulthood. She may also fi nd herself
in abusive relationships where the punishment for speaking her mind
results in such consequences as verbal attacks, fi nancial abuse, or
Silenced Woman is often thought of as shy or quiet. Many times, a
Silenced Woman is a people-pleaser who says and does what she’s
told to do. She does not counter abuse with assertiveness, nor does
she engage in debates.
Unfortunately, some of us may have been subjected to being criticized and abused by the dream stealers of the world. These people come from a position of fear, jealousy and their own losses. They may have had their dreams stolen and believe that if they can’t pursue their dreams, no one else should. Their criticism may come in the form of words and actions. They may say, “Who do you think you are, you’ll never publish a book and we both know that!” Or, “You don’t know what you’re saying and no one else is going to believe you anyway!”
The man whom society will not forgive nor restore is driven into recklessness. -F W Robertson
There are times when we as a society, may put a famous person on a pedestal. Then they do something to fall off. For years, we may find it hard to forgive them. They may have made amends and positive changes in their lives but if their name comes up in a conversation we may be quick to say, “Remember when they ________?”